Fiftily


Fiftily

In the long line of wise men from Benjamin Franklin to Mark Twain to Dale Carnegie, I’m jumping in; cutting in line to share some of the things I’ve learned in my fifty years as a semi-woke, semi-devout radical centrist. I know, I know, this is so subjective, but it’s things I’ve learned. This isn’t so much advice as it is observations that could be taken as advice if one so chose. For my friends who are of my generation and rank, this will likely be quirkily affirming. For my younger friends, I hope one of these bullets may protect you from the mistakes and pain I had to endure before I learned it. For my older friends, well, I’m still just a precocious youngster continuing to butt in before I should.

I acknowledge that much of this is cliché, if not borrowed or regurgitated. To that extent, it is at least culled and curated, through my eyes and experiences: it is my list.  

You’ll also notice that, in contrast to my “Fortily” collection, this is not verse or even essay. It seems appropriate that, because I’m an olding man in an ever-newing world, though loosely themed and organized, the bulleted list is just jaunty enough and less wieldingly wrought than the poetry that precedes it.

  • ·         Make Lists

In the Kitchen

  • ·         1 minute 35 seconds is just about as long as anything needs to be in the microwave. Not too hot, not too cold: Water for tea, leftover chicken, popcorn. If it requires longer or shorter, it probably shouldn’t go in the microwave, or you probably shouldn’t eat it.
  • ·         If you don’t like the white jelly beans, don’t eat them. Don’t just “not eat them,” throw them away. No need keeping them in the package only to pull them out again. It’s not wasteful. Wasteful is consuming gross empty calories without pleasure.
  • ·         Ketchup is the best dipping sauce. When in a pinch, it goes with just about everything: chips of all kinds, fish sticks, chicken. Dress it up or down with Tabasco or Ranch which, on their own, are not as multi-functional.
  • ·         Infuse your liquors. It’s a fun activity and will save you some money. Use a mid-level liquor (Sapphire instead of Hendricks, Beam instead of Blantons, Cuervo instead of Codigo) and pour them into decanters with appropriate flavors eg: jalapenos, cinnamon sticks, basil, mint, fruit to use as floaters or bases for fun drinks.
  • ·         Use fresh herbs. Nothing is cheaper, tastes better, or provides easier self-satisfaction than putting homegrown mint, basil, parsley, ginger, cilantro, thyme, dill, and oregano in, or on top of something otherwise ordinary that you cook.
  • ·         No shoes in the house. All that crap you step on stays outside stays outside.
Outside
  • ·         Battery-powered lawn tools are a game-changer. No more tethering extension cords and you’re “doing your part.” Except for the blower, it needs to be gas, otherwise it’s like you’re out there clearing the sidewalk with a hair dryer.
  • o   Do your own lawn mowing and yard maintenance. It’s good for your health, you get a little sun, and you have the pride of accomplishment that all your neighbors can see
  • ·         Poinsettias grow year round and make a pretty blast of green during the summer months too. We go around after New Year’s each year and rescue throw-aways from the neighbors trash heaps and are good to go come Christmastime.
  • ·         Save those cheap plastic planter pots that the flowers you buy come in. They’re great for new seedlings and, if you were to go back to the store to buy them off the shelf would cost a couple bucks.
  • ·         Citronella works. Stick a couple on the front porch to keep the mosquitoes out of the house.
  • ·         Understand that there’s no such thing as a squirrel-free bird feeder. Just accept that, if you’re going to put out a bird feeder, squirrels will also get in there. Rather than obsessing about how to keep the squirrels out, just think of it as a “critter-feeder” and enjoy.
Health
  • ·         Slam a bottle of water every night before you go to bed. After your last bev, after your last trip to the pantry and after you brush your teeth. Make it part of your routine. You’ll sleep better and wake up feeling a little better than you would otherwise.
  • ·         Zinc, D3, a multi-vitamin, biotin, C, an Omega every day
  • ·         Get and use a Sonicare toothbrush. Just 30 seconds after each meal. Full two minutes before bed. Floss regularly, not just when you feel like you have something stuck.
Social
  • ·         It’s ok to lose an argument. In fact, it’s sometimes ok to throw an argument, to take a dive. If you like the person you’re arguing with and want to socialize via argument in the future, you have to make it worth their while too.
  • ·         Judge people by their actions, not their words. Unless it’s the N-word, saying that is a judgeable action
  • ·         Don’t ever loan money to a friend. Give it to them with no strings.
  • ·         Generally, don’t do business with friends. Definitely not real estate: you’ll both always end up feeling cheated, underserved, and resentful.
  • ·         Find something that you’re the best at, even if it’s something obscure or arcane: beautiful handwriting, quoting movie lines, whistling the Andy Griffith theme song
  • ·         Smile at strangers
  • ·         Thank Veterans for their service
  • ·         Find a sports team to cheer for
  • ·         Don’t lose a friendship over politics. Don’t make friends  based on politics.
  • ·         Whether you have one best friend or ten, don’t keep secrets from them. If the secret breaks the friendship, they were never really “best.”
Random, completely subjective and personal, Hierarchies
  • ·         Security>Justice>Liberty
  • ·         Clueless>Legally Blonde>Mean Girls
  • ·         Tampa>Orlando>Daytona
  • ·         Apple>Google>Meta
  • ·         Securities>Real Estate>Bonds
  • ·         Verizon>AT&T>Virgin
  • ·         Courier>Times New Roman>Arial
  • ·         Buffalo Trace>Blantons>Bookers
  • ·         Nolets>Hendricks>Aviation
  • ·         Whitman>Ginsberg>Emerson
  • ·         Borges>Faulkner>Hemingway
  • ·         Derrida>Baudrillard>Foucault
  • ·         FSU>UCF>>>>>>>>>>>>UF
  • ·         Dolphins>Bucs>Patriots

 

 

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